The Internet is sprinked with useless divorce links so I posted the links I found most helpful. (Hint: bookmark this page - so you can find it later and save yourself hours of wasted time looking for what I have already found)

Looking for the Cheapest divorce - If you're not contesting your divorce, here is the cheapest option, "Download Forms". Just fill them in and file for divorce in your local state, use this link Fast & Easy DIVORCES Online They offer phone support to help fill them out and it has ALL the forms including California Divorce and Texas Divorce. The reason I like their site is that they have everything

Not quite ready to give up? It didn't help me as my marriage was already over but if haven't yet decided if you want out of your marriage, please read Susie and Otto Collins book "Should you Stay or Should you Go" or another great resource is, Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce as these give you a different perspective. Sometimes it helps to get a different point of view. Another great resource is "1000 Questions for Couples" The idea is that you ask your partner important questions to find out if you're even compatible. The only problem with asking is you may not like the answers you get or you might ignore the red flags and warning signs.

Still willing to try? If you are still trying or willing to try save your marriage you should seriously consider Lee Baucom book on "Saving Your Marriage" - there so many myth's about reconcilling - this book shocked me. I never realized that the steps differed for men and women. Hint: Beggging and pleading doesn't work! I guess what I found so sad was that most couples believe that reconcilling requires little more then making promises and 'going to a therapist'. This book might have helped me, but by the time I found it it was too late.

Need a lawyer? LegalMatch is a service that matches a lawyer in your area with your specific needs. Much easier and faster then using the phone book or just asking around, they allow you to post questions for free on their site.

Divorce Lawyer Guide - "The Divorce Primer - Divorce Basics for the Consumer" by Jean Mahserjian and Whitney Clark (lawyers) shows you how to save big money on your attorneys fees, it also explains the divorce process the court system and offers tips and advice for winning your divorce. You could spend 10 hours with a divorce attorney - at say, $200 per hour, ($2000) or you could seriously consider their book. My suggestion, buy the book.

Getting aggressive? Here is how you divorce with teeth - this book is interesting, written by two divorce lawyers "Take charge of your divorce!" it draws ideas from military tactics to help win your divorce. Sprinkled with quotes from the reknowned Chinese military general, Sun Tzu, here is a sample, "The attorney-client relationship is comparable to the ruler-general relationship. Think of your divorce lawyer as a military leader... capable of developing strategies, leading an army of associates and paralegals, and negotiating the peace treaty." A very interesting perspective. An unusual but interesting read.

Computer Spyware - What is Spyware? Spyware monitors your spouse (or child) when they use Instant Messages, Chats, Emails, Web Site and it records undetected everything that takes place. Not only do you see what they type online but what is said back as well It monitors both incoming and outgoing activity - catch "cheats". Here are the statistics which I read recently - 57% of people have used the Internet to flirt, 38% have engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% of people have made phone contact with someone they chatted with online. If you're suspicious Spyware will help you find out the truth. Learn more about Spyware at An Introduction to Spyware and Scumware or Spyware Articles.

Snooping for "dirt" - I used Investigate Anyone on my computer to find out about "someone" I wanted to find more about. (can't go into too many details here ::grin::) But here's how it helped me. Everyday hundreds of databases store information on individuals which you can access. Yes, its legal. I used what I learned to find the truth about this person - an information "gold mine". You "could" use it to find hidden assets, or the truth.

I included this link to Men Made Easy as it provides an interesting insight into men and why things don't always work out. Not strictly a divorce book but certainly an interesting read for someone struggling with the end of their relationship.

Another useful book, "How to Legally Save Thousands on Your Divorce" is the book that uncovers major stumbling blocks that prevent people from getting more from their divorce, saving huge legal fee's and getting over the ex faster and for less.

Hope these links help you.